Today’s post isn’t the one I originally planned on doing today but I’m sitting in a fast food line trying to get lunch before work and this topic is something that is fresh in my mind.
Today I had therapy for the first time in some weeks. Normally I wouldn’t post about this but there are some things that I’ve been wanting to get out there. But the benefits of having a good therapist(s) greatly outweighs not having one, especially when you probably need it.
Now im not saying if you are of sound mental health and stability that you should run out and get a therapist. But if you have issues that you are having somewhat constant trouble getting through, it’s most likely a good idea. You are not alone and a good therapist can be that person who helps you out of those dark times.
I started going because I have a lot of issues with habitual/instinctual lying and keeping my problems bottled up until they came exploding out. Most of the time it was dumb, little things like “did you do the dishes” or “take out the trash” and saying I did when I didn’t. There have also been some some doozies that I won’t discuss here. But save to say, they had a very negative effects on my life. Growing up, I was the man of the house from a very early age, and my family wasn’t the best at talking about our feelings, so that was a factor as well. I didn’t have a bad childhood, but it wasn’t a particularly open and honest one.
I finally started going to a therapist regularly and I have to say, it has really changed my life. Have someone who isn’t going to judge me by what I say, what I do, and will give me the best advice they can on what I need. I have plenty of people in my life I can say that about, but having someone who isn’t biased towards you or your past, can give you a new perspective.
You don’t have to see a therapist every day or every week, but being regular about it is the key. It doesnt even have to be a therapist. There are a multitude of hotlines you can call and talk to someone who will listen and point you in the right direction. The goal is to get help when you need it.
These days I’m a lot happier and a lot healthier. I still have issues that I’m working on; things don’t change overnight. But having that person you can see and can come at things from a purely logical standpoint is a great. I’m more open, I’m more honest, I don’t shy away from the hard questions (as much). I have a new wife and wonderful family to support me who don’t judge what I have to say. I have wonderful friends who are an extension of that family and are there when I need them. I’m working on compulsive honesty and being open to the people who love and care for me. And I’m all the better for it.
Thank you for listening to this impromptu post about the benefits of talking to someone. It’s always something that’s on my mind and I thought I’d share it with you. Below are a few hotline numbers to call if you ever need to talk to someone and get your feelings off your chest. If i know you in IRL or on social media, you can contact me too if you just need someone to rant to.
National Suicide Prevention Hotline: (800) 273-8255
Domestic Abuse Hotline: (800) 799-7233 (SAFE).
Girls & Boys Town National Hotline: